WORKSHOP + Q&A — Dec. 9 @ 5 PM US/Central
Overfunctioning and underfunctioning are somatic survival strategies.
And they are brilliant — until they’re not.
You are living inside a spell — a nervous-system spell — that taught your body to survive through either doing too much or doing too little.
Most people call these patterns:
controlling
lazy
perfectionistic
avoidant
dramatic
unmotivated
codependent
emotionally immature
But those labels aren’t Truth.
They’re moralized shortcuts used by families, workplaces, and the overculture to explain behavior they don’t understand.
BRILLIANT is the workshop where we finally name what’s actually happening: both of your nervous systems are working really hard to survive what feels threatening.
One of your nervous systems feels safer doing MORE — the overfunctioner.
One of your nervous systems feels safer doing LESS — the underfunctioner.
These are equal but opposite survival strategies that are both brilliant AND dysfunctional.
What BRILLIANT Helps You See Clearly
In this 2-hour workshop, you will learn:
Why OF and UF are not personality traits — they’re full-body responses to threat
You’ll see how your physiology, not your character, drives compulsive doing or chronic collapse.
How shame, capitalism, patriarchy, and gender conditioning distort your functioning
We break down why women get labeled “controlling” for the same traits men get celebrated for — and why men get shamed into emotional shutdown.
How the nervous system makes both roles feel “natural,” even when they’re destructive
You’ll understand why rest feels threatening to an OF, and why initiative feels dangerous to a UF.
Why the OF/UF dynamic becomes a spell that hijacks your identity
You’ll see exactly how the trance gets created — and why it feels impossible to simply “try harder,” “chill out,” or “communicate better.”
The somatic brilliance underneath both patterns
The OF’s anticipatory intelligence. The UF’s protective withdrawal. The hidden rewards, secondary gains, and survival logic inside both roles.
How to begin breaking the spell
You’ll leave understanding the first steps — the real steps — to interrupting the pattern in your relationship or in yourself.
Who BRILLIANT Is For
This workshop is for you if:
- You’re the one doing everything, holding everything, tracking everything
- You’re the one collapsing, avoiding, forgetting, or freezing
- You grew up being “the responsible one” or “the one everyone worried about”
- You’re tired of being misinterpreted, moralized, or pathologized
- You want nervous-system language, not blame
- You want clarity, not clichés
- You want to understand your relationship patterns SOMATICALLY, not psychologically
You do not need to attend with a partner. You do not need to know your “type.” You only need a body that’s been trying its best in a world that has not understood you.
Why This Workshop Matters
Because without nervous-system literacy, we collapse everything into character:
“She’s controlling.”
“He’s lazy.”
“She’s dramatic.”
“They’re emotionally immature.”
“He never follows through.”
This shame-based frame keeps both people stuck, resentful, and misdiagnosed.
BRILLIANT gives you the missing language: capacity, physiology, survival reflexes, and somatic intelligence.
When you can see your pattern through this lens, you stop fighting yourself.
You stop fighting your partner. You stop fighting the wrong problem.
And that changes everything.
What You Get
- A 2-hour live workshop
- Nervous-system literacy that changes how you see yourself (and probably your partner) forever
- Tools for identifying whether your OF/UF is survival-based or learned
- A deeper understanding of your partner’s nervous system
- Q&A time with me
- Lifetime replay access
Tickets: $99
Replay included for all registrants
SAVE YOUR SPOT!
Why I Created BRILLIANT
Because the conversation about overfunctioning and underfunctioning is being flattened into memes, stereotypes, and moral judgments.
Because OF/UF is not “who you are.” It’s who your nervous system learned to become.
Because healing the OF/UF dynamic is not about:
- trying harder
- resting more
- communicating better
- reading the right books
- or diagnosing your partner
It is about breaking a spell that has lived in your physiology since childhood.
BRILLIANT is the doorway into that work.
Join BRILLIANT
If you want to understand yourself and your partner with more clarity, compassion, and somatic intelligence than you’ve ever had before — this workshop is your beginning.

