LL’s Guide to Rupture & Repair

Rupture is as normal in a relationship as breathing. And repair is the sacred, gritty, human skill that keeps love real.

Relationships are the REAL work — and repair is the practice that makes relationships possible.

When it comes to conflict, we all have some weird shit.

We fear it. We avoid it. We stew over it in ourselves before we dare to bring it up to someone else.

We attempt to smooth it over. Move on. Let it go.

We blame. Defend. Shutdown. We come up with all kinds of creative tactics to avoid it — please, dear God, anything BUT facing it head-on — all because we don’t know what the f*ck to do to repair what hurts and come back into real connection.

Basically, when it comes to rupture and conflict, none of us were never taught how to STAY — not with ourselves and not with others.

This guide exists to change that.

Repair simply means that you can name what’s real, stay with it even when it’s uncomfortable af, and learn how to come back — to yourself and each other — without abandoning yourself or harming someone else in the process.

LL’s Guide to Rupture & Repair is for people who…

freeze or fawn or panic when things feel “off”
want to learn how to initiate repair and what to say and how to take care of your nervous system in the process
have been burned by unhealthy conflict or fake peace
why delivery matters but it isn’t everything and you don’t need to perform calm to be heard
care deeply and want to stay in relationship without losing yourself
have gotten feedback from others that you blame, deflect, defend, and shutdown when they’re trying to talk about hard things with you
are committed to building relationships that can handle the truth

Avoidance of rupture makes intimacy impossible.

Repair is the work that makes intimacy possible.

The kind of intimacy that isn’t scared of your real feelings or your actual, unedited truth. The kind of intimacy that can handle a no, a disagreement, a rupture, a repair.

Inside this 40-page guide, you’ll get:

A clear, grounded 7-step framework for real-time repair
Actual sentence prompts and scripts for messy moments when you struggle with what to say
Tools to regulate your nervous system mid-conflict
How to sequence repair when you’re both hurt at the same time
Red flags that repair isn’t possible (yet or ever)
Integration and reflection questions to anchor the work in your real life
Tips for sharing this guide for someone you’ve had a rupture with

True Story…

I once worked with a couple who both insisted their relationship was “good 80% of the time.” They laughed together. Had a great sex life. Shared values. Raised kids. Built a life.

But the other 20%? It all fell apart.

The 20% was when the silent treatment happened, when the doors slammed, and when sensitivity was weaponized.

During the 20%, they both said “I’m fine” when they clearly weren’t fine.

He often shut their ruptures down before she could say anything because he had zero capacity for her hurt. And she got louder and more emotional trying to be heard.

Here’s the truth: The strength of a relationship is not measured by the good times. It’s measured by how you move through the hard ones.

Anyone can feel close when things are light, easy, and flowing. But when someone feels hurt, misattuned, unseen, misunderstood?

That’s the real test.

If your connection crumbles every time a conflict or disagreement surfaces, you don’t actually have intimacy.

You have compatibility until friction arises.

And that’s not a bad thing… but it’s just the edge. You’ve got deeper work to do.

Rupture isn’t a failure. It’s a threshold. It’s the moment where you find out if your connection can stretch to hold the truth — or if it breaks under the pressure of discomfort.

This guide was made for the 20%.

For the parts no one posts on Instagram.

For the nights where you don’t know what to say, but you want to stay anyway.

For the moments when everything in your body says shut down — but your heart says reach.

Love isn’t real because it’s perfect. It’s real when it’s honest, when things are hard, but you’re both still holding each other.

Keep it on hand. Save it to your phone. Come back when shit hits the fan.

You, yes YOU, are capable of learning how to go through something almost none of us were taught but all of us fear.

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Lindsey is NOT a licensed therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist. She is a trauma educator and coach. Her work is not intended to take the place of medical care provided by the practitioner of your choice. It is also not intended to diagnose or treat any physical or mental illness or take the place of therapy provided by a credentialed therapist. Upon purchasing, you agree to these and all other Terms of Service at checkout, and you acknowledge the above statements and consent to working with Lindsey and/or using her products.