eBook: When Rest Feels Wrong

A nervous system guide for the over-functioning woman who can’t stop doing too much — and is finally ready to understand why.

You already know you’re doing too much. Too much emotional labor, carrying too much of the mental load, too much relational tending that isn’t reciprocated, too much shit around the house, and if you have kids, you’re probably doing most of the parenting, too.

Maybe you’ve tried to slow down and rest. You’ve set boundaries, pulled back, and told yourself it’s okay to take a break — but the second you stop, something in your body panics.

You’re even “being still,” but your insides are anything but still.

You can’t relax. You can’t exhale. You feel guilty, anxious, tense, overwhelmed, or numb when you try.

Rest doesn’t feel like rest to you — it feels like failure, danger, or collapse. Rest feels wrong.
If this resonates, this guide is for you.

Here’s what you’ll learn inside:
– Why your nervous system resists rest — and how over-functioning becomes a deeply embodied survival strategy
– What collapse actually is, how it differs from real rest, and why it might be the smartest thing your body could do for you
– The difference between relief and restoration, and why scrolling or zoning out doesn’t replenish your capacity
– How to support yourself — and how to be supported by others — when doing less feels threatening, disorienting, or unfamiliar
– What it means to shift out of control and into authentic, body-led choice, and why that shift requires real-time flexibility
– A breakdown of the different types of rest (physical, mental, sensory, emotional, and more), so you can finally identify what kind of rest your body actually needs
– 10 of the biggest personal myths about rest, regulation, and capacity that I had to personally unlearn
— the difference between the Physiology of Control and the Physiology of Authentic Choice
This is not a checklist or a self-care routine. This guide will NOT provide step-by-step instructions on how to stop over-functioning (but I have so much more coming, so stay tuned!).

When Rest Feels Wrong is a grounded, honest invitation to stop performing safety and start experiencing it — in your body, on your terms, one small adjustment at a time.

Guess what? When you finally take the step to stop over-functioning, you will not magically land in the perfect level of functioning.

You collapse first.

You collapse because you’re no longer allowing your cocktail of stress hormones and all the “shoulds” in your head dictate what you do. You collapse because you have to finally feel the grief of how much you’ve been doing inauthentically and what it’s cost you and your relationships. You collapse because your nervous system doesn’t know what to do with itself for a bit.

And for that collapse, this guide is here to gently support you through it.

If you are approaching collapse, already in it, or recovering from a lifetime of holding it all together, When Rest Feels Wrong will help you understand what your body is doing and why.

It will not shame you for struggling to slow down.

It will meet you where you are — and offer a new way forward that does not depend on your exhaustion.

Download When Rest Feels Wrong for just $10. Or, name your price if you’d generously love to give more!

This is the beginning of a deeper unraveling — and thank Goddess! You’re here because your body is finally ready to stop holding it all.